Key traits — The Absolutist
- Uses 'always', 'never', 'every single time' under stress
- Highly invested in relationships and outcomes
- Feels emotions strongly and communicates with intensity
- May catastrophise or generalise in conflict
- Has high standards for themselves and others
Growth edge
One simple shift: replace 'you always' with 'in this moment, I notice'. Naming the specific moment instead of a lifelong pattern sharply lowers the other person's defensiveness.
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