Key traits of the The Softener
- Starts requests confidently, then immediately softens them
- Adds 'sorry' and 'but never mind' unnecessarily
- Prioritises others' comfort over expressing real needs
- Reads the room with high emotional sensitivity
- Avoids direct confrontation even when it's healthy
Growth edge
Practice ending sentences without a cushion. 'I'd like to leave at 7pm' — full stop. No 'but whatever you prefer' needed.
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