ALYGN · EQ Communication Intelligence
For couples & relationships

Why do you keep
having the same fight?

ALYGN reveals each partner's communication archetype and measures the perception gap between what you mean and what actually lands. Built on Gottman, CBT, and NVC.

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Takes 3 minutes · No account · Private by design
Sound familiar?

The patterns most couples share

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"We keep having the same fight"
Different communication archetypes create predictable patterns. ALYGN names them — which is the first step to breaking them.
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"You never listen to me"
Often a perception gap problem. What you mean to say and what lands are different things. ALYGN measures exactly how wide that gap is.
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"I feel like I'm walking on eggshells"
Usually a sign of mismatched conflict styles. ALYGN shows you both where the tension originates — without blame.
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"We're fine in person but text ruins it"
Tone is invisible in text. ALYGN decodes the emotional subtext of messages — the 'read between the lines' layer most people miss.
How it works

Use it together in 4 steps

01
Each partner takes the 3-minute quiz
Discover your communication archetype independently — no bias, no comparison pressure. Six archetypes based on Gottman, CBT, and NVC research.
02
Decode real messages from your relationship
Paste messages you've sent or received. ALYGN shows you the emotional subtext and perception gap.
03
Compare your archetypes
ALYGN's 6×6 compatibility matrix shows how your styles interact — where you complement each other and where friction typically arises.
04
Get actionable rewrites
Every decode includes two AI-generated alternatives — one direct (CBT assertiveness), one empathetic (NVC-informed). Real scripts you can actually send.
Communication styles

6 archetypes — see how yours interact

Most conflict in relationships isn't about the issue — it's about two different communication styles colliding. Once you both know your archetype, the pattern has a name.

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Secure Connector
Direct, warm, quick to repair.
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The Softener
Empathetic, conflict-averse, over-apologises.
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The Absolutist
Intense, uses 'always'/'never' under stress.
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The Deflector
High EQ, expresses frustration indirectly.
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The Critic
High standards, Gottman Four Horsemen risk.
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The Ruminator
Overthinks, delays authentic expression.
Compatibility insights

Example pairings — what ALYGN reveals

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Secure + Absolutist
Secure's calmness can anchor Absolutist's intensity — but only if Absolutist learns to pause before the 'always/never' comes out.
🫧 + 🔥
Softener + Critic
Classic under-/over-statement pairing. Softener disappears to avoid conflict; Critic escalates. Named patterns make the difference visible.
🌀 + 🌊
Deflector + Ruminator
Two indirect communicators. Both feel deeply, but neither says it directly. ALYGN helps them see the mirroring — and gives them words.

Take the quiz → share your archetype link → compare at alygn.me/match/:archetype

Try it before you recommend it

Take the 3-minute quiz yourself. See the archetype, decode a message, review the report. It takes 5 minutes — and it's completely free.

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